Damn I just keep being inored I just wanted a friend

Damn I just keep being ignored I just wanted a friend fing hard to ask for around here cause I don't think so I think people are doing it on F***ing purpose.

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I tried to put myself out their like any other forums but I still get ignored like WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NanamiMadobe7 • 2 mese/i fa • #128642273Damn I just keep being ignored I just wanted a friend fing hard to ask for around here cause I don't think so I think people are doing it on F***ing purpose.
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I tried to put myself out their like any other forums but I still get ignored like WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
People don't really do a self introduction forum post like that, at least not in the MFC club. I would say making comments on articles/item pages/other user pages has a better chance of interaction. Or creating an article about something (given that it is somewhat relevant to this site)

NanamiMadobe7 • 2 mese/i fa • #128642273Damn I just keep being ignored I just wanted a friend fing hard to ask for around here cause I don't think so I think people are doing it on F***ing purpose.
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I tried to put myself out their like any other forums but I still get ignored like WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Find a club club/browse/ youre interested in a leave comments/posts about related things

Make an article chatting about your interests/latest purchases/wished/etc. Comments there are alot more active then the fourms

Find people with similar pieces/collections and PM/comment on their page. Another easy way to start a convetsation. Comment on photos you like too.

Fourms are really neglected by the major population of MFC, articles get better engagement IMO.

I used to be lonely when I first started out. It can be tough for some to make friends easily. It'll be nice if MFC has chat feature or a more modern DM design.

Just based from personal experience. You'll eventually gain more friends if you interact very often in the blogs or on figure pages.

NanamiMadobe7 • 2 mese/i fa • #128642273so I think people are doing it on F***ing purpose.
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I tried to put myself out their like any other forums but I still get ignored like WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This sounds pretty unpleasant. I understand you're struggling mentally and it's very hard feeling lonely but I think most people don't want to be friends with someone who will go off the deep end and assume the worst of people over nothing. It sounds like you've set up a self-fulfilling cycle here. If that's your reaction to not getting responses to a blog post how are you going to weather any of the natural and inevitable instances of anyone you did befriend not paying you attention?

Chinspike • 2 mese/i fa • #128665729This sounds pretty unpleasant. I understand you're struggling mentally and it's very hard feeling lonely but I think most people don't want to be friends with someone who will go off the deep end and assume the worst of people over nothing. It sounds like you've set up a self-fulfilling cycle here. If that's your reaction to not getting responses to a blog post how are you going to weather any of the natural and inevitable instances of anyone you did befriend not paying you attention? Well, I think the main issue is they are using the less active section of MFC. Major of users interact in the articles, which is also on the front page while the forums is pretty hidden. It's not that deep. I pardon if I sound blunt but that's how it is unless if the team or owner finds a way to make the forums more visible.

Also it can be tough to make friends when people hardly know you. At least in my experience.

No offense, but if I were a new user being told this. I wouldn't find your comment welcoming at all. It gives me the impression the community isn't sympathetic. That's just my two cents.

LittlePisces • 2 mese/i fa • #128665892Well, I think the main issue is they are using the less active section of MFC. Major of users interact in the articles, which is also on the front page while the forums is pretty hidden. It's not that deep. I pardon if I sound blunt but that's how it is unless if the team or owner finds a way to make the forums more visible.
Also it can be tough to make friends when people hardly know you. At least in my experience.
No offense, but if I were a new user being told this. I wouldn't find your comment welcoming at all. Maybe I might've deleted my account. It gives me the impression the community isn't sympathetic. I mean that's fair enough, I suppose. I definitely could have been more delicate about it, and it's very kind of you to reach out and give advice about it. I don't think it's cool to start swearing at people over not getting attention though, and just enabling that isn't really helping the root issue. There's a reasonable chance they're quite young, in which case reacting like that is more understandable but c'mon saying people are deliberately ignoring you and swearing about it is a ridiculously rude way of behaving in this situation.

I totally agree that the reason their initial thread didn't get attention is because it was just in the wrong place, and not really fitting with how this site usually works. They didn't do anything wrong there except looking in the wrong place. But if their first thought isn't any of that and is instead posting about how people are deliberately f'ing ignoring me WTF!!!!! then I'm sorry but it's not going to go well regardless of where they post. Kindness is a two way street and people are much less likely to be kind to you or want to spend time with you if you're making rude accusations at them.

Chinspike • 2 mese/i fa • #128665932I mean that's fair enough, I suppose. I definitely could have been more delicate about it, and it's very kind of you to reach out and give advice about it. I don't think it's cool to start swearing at people over not getting attention though, and just enabling that isn't really helping the root issue. There's a reasonable chance they're quite young, in which case reacting like that is more understandable but c'mon saying people are deliberately ignoring you and swearing about it is a ridiculously rude way of behaving in this situation.
I totally agree that the reason their initial thread didn't get attention is because it was just in the wrong place, and not really fitting with how this site usually works. They didn't do anything wrong there except looking in the wrong place. But if their first thought isn't any of that and is instead posting about how people are deliberately f'ing ignoring me WTF!!!!! then I'm sorry but it's not going to go well regardless of where they post. Kindness is a two way street and people are much less likely to be kind to you or want to spend time with you if you're making rude accusations at them.

I definitely agree with this sentiment. To begin this person is interested in topics that weren't going to gain much traction in mfc while posting in a generally inactive portion of the site. However holding a temper tantrum that is this post really doesn't help their case at all and discourages people who might actually be interested. I have a feeling they might be younger.

Chinspike • 2 mese/i fa • #128665932I mean that's fair enough, I suppose. I definitely could have been more delicate about it, and it's very kind of you to reach out and give advice about it. I don't think it's cool to start swearing at people over not getting attention though, and just enabling that isn't really helping the root issue. There's a reasonable chance they're quite young, in which case reacting like that is more understandable but c'mon saying people are deliberately ignoring you and swearing about it is a ridiculously rude way of behaving in this situation.
I totally agree that the reason their initial thread didn't get attention is because it was just in the wrong place, and not really fitting with how this site usually works. They didn't do anything wrong there except looking in the wrong place. But if their first thought isn't any of that and is instead posting about how people are deliberately f'ing ignoring me WTF!!!!! then I'm sorry but it's not going to go well regardless of where they post. Kindness is a two way street and people are much less likely to be kind to you or want to spend time with you if you're making rude accusations at them.

Its not just about a lack of manners/kindness, but who wants to be friends with someone, who shows in an instant, that they are so unhinged, that not getting a reply means people are out to get them/do this on purpose to hurt/mock them?

LittlePisces • 2 mese/i fa • #128665892Well, I think the main issue is they are using the less active section of MFC. Major of users interact in the articles, which is also on the front page while the forums is pretty hidden. It's not that deep. I pardon if I sound blunt but that's how it is unless if the team or owner finds a way to make the forums more visible.
Also it can be tough to make friends when people hardly know you. At least in my experience.
No offense, but if I were a new user being told this. I wouldn't find your comment welcoming at all. It gives me the impression the community isn't sympathetic. That's just my two cents.

To be honest, I had to agree with Chinspike though. The location of the post is definitely the main reason for the lack of engagement, don't get me wrong, but their reaction to the lack of engagement is quite frankly inaccceptable and does not need to be welcomed.

It is honestly not the best start to any sort of relationship to go off on people and accuse them of ignoring you on purpose. And even if they did ignore them, it's not that anyone is really entitled to a stranger's attention and receiving their friendship. Cursing them out for not sharing the same interests or simply feeling satisfied with the friends they have is simply not healthy behavior.

You can't force someone to befriend you and it is honestly not helping someone's image to react in such an intense way to no one replying to their post after merely a day while seemingly not doing much to find friends themselves and placing the responsibility on everyone else after a single post.

There are other factors supporting this. Their original thread was made a day ago and today they went on a cursing spree how everyone is ignoring them on purpose. They barely even gave people time to find the post, much less inquiring somewhere else if there is a reason it is not getting any traction. No. They immediately blamed everyone else instead of giving people the benefit of the doubt and asking if there's something wrong perhaps. Like if they did something wrong introducing themselves in that area perhaps since some websites may have different ways of doing it. Or if it was the right place and/or time. But no, they immediately blamed others. This is not the best first impression. Few people want to react to someone in turn who throws an accusatory tantrum about how everyone else is at fault while showing a fairly unpleasant reaction. It's impossible to be everyone's friend. People won't just jump on someone aaking for a friend and you'll suddenly become bff. That's usually not how it works. It takes work from both sides.

As you said, the forums are not a very good place to make friends. They also admitted they are not very active on here right off the bat. Admitting you are not active on the platform you are seeking friends on is not a good start to making friends since friendships generally take time and nourishment, especially at the start. They can't just expect to meet people at their own convenience after all but also need to be there for their friends. So if maybe it would be better not to admit right away that they're not active. That doesn't make for very good conversation.

And lastly, the topic of mental health has been addressed many times on this website and is incredibly divisive and immediately turns a decent part of the userbase off. They can match everywhere else but mentioning you seek friends because you need support with your mental health isn't going to attract a vast amount of people. Feelings of loneliness and depression of course shouldn't be ignored and neither looked down upon but immediately saying "I need a friend because I need support and I'm lonely and depressed" is going to turn many people away, as sad as it is. Because many people don't already want to start a friendship by becoming a therapist to someone. They want to be friends, not someone's cheap therapy session.

I'm not accusing them of wanting to use friends like that nor am I blaming them for battling mental health issues. I'm just saying that this is what automatically turns many people away without giving them a chance because to many, it does sound like replacing a therapist for them.

Of course providing support is natural in friendships and should always be part of a real friendship, but it often doesn't bode well with people if you already start unloading your baggage onto them before they can even get to know you a little more and you even said something yourself. I do think people deserve help and support from friends, otherwise they aren't friends, but it's just not a good way to start a friendship by saying you want a friend because you need mental support. Because that's merely a part of friendship, not all of it. And many people are already full to the brim with people needing help in their lives. No friendship should just consist of dealing with problems either.

Once again, I'm not claiming that this is what they were attempting to do but it might have appeared that way to others nonetheless because their introduction was fairly scarce and their mental health was a big part of it. People rarely introduce themselves to a stranger with "I'm lonely and need support battling depression". Mental health should find a natural way to be addressed over the course of getting to know someone because it can turn people off otherwise. It does need to find a place of course but it needs to be healthy, it shouldn't replace professional help and most importantly, it may be better not to immediately start with introducing the heaviest topics first.

For example, it's why many dates complain about their date partner on their first date mentioning way too much and going way too deep. It causes people to think problems are their only topic and that's ultimately not what any sort of platonic or romantic relatiobship should be like. It should also be fun and sharing interests.

It may not have been the most welcoming comment but neither has OP's comment been very kind. The initial thread wasn't terrible of course but it was already so specific and in a place where few would see it that it was bound to not garner a ton of attention. And instead of being a bit more patient and also being a bit more proactive themselves in investigating the reason in a calm, composed and polite manner, they went off on people and blamed them for everything instead of just rationally considering things.

MFC is generally more of a database than a forum to make friends. Which doesn't mean you can't make friends but not everyone comes here with the intention to make friends to start with. And not even just on the level of not planning to but really not wanting to.

Patience is key. Kindness is another factor. Organic friendships usually just happen over time without much intention because you can't force a match.
Especially because people here come from so many backgrounds, cultures and age groups that you won't even have a huge demographic that will suit all your needs. For example, I'm 30 years old and I certainly can't and won't befriend a 15 year-old for example. So if I were to ignore such a post for example, it's not because I'm an asshole but because I'm not a predator. There is no reason for an adult to interact with minors here beyond having a superficial discussion on a harmless topic below an article at most. But definitely not friendship or anything else. Many adults here won't even interact with minors or people who have not disclosed an age at all and the reasons are understandale.

And this is what this feels like. Blaming others for not wanting to become immediate friends and an immediate support system against loneliness and depression without considering other reasons isn't a good start to any kind of relationship. Especially after merely a day and after admitting that they're not very active here. That's not really showing much commitment either. It can't be just one person doing all the work.


One way to make friends is also to show interest in others and not just pushing your own interests in pursuing friendship. No one wants to be the friend of someone who goes off on their "friend" for not immediately answering and neither do many people want to become a stand-in therapist for other people's issues.

In my opinion they did the bare minimum, expected people to flock to their post and then got upset when one post and a bump didn't give them friends on a silver platter in a day.

The universe doesn't hand out friends on a silver platter. People usually need to put in effort themselves but also not appear too desperate nor demanding. People usually slowly figure out who works with them and vice versa. But making a post and then blaming everyone else after not getting immediate results...

I don't think it's a lack of being welcoming but addressing problematic behavior before it can take root any further. Because if people just let it stand like that and don't call it out now, then OP will think it's justified that they're blaming others. I don't think blaming others needs to be defended and what Chinspike said was more than reasonable. Showing pure sympathy toward someone blaming and cussing others out is not helping either.

I sympathize with wanting friends since it's natural to wish for friends. I also sympathize with struggling with mental health problems. But I don't sympathize with potentially abusive behavior taking root. And this is already showing signs of that. It is not normal to blame others for not replying after a day and cuss them out for ignoring you.

There is a huge difference between sympathy and just letting potentially harmful things go. You can show both and I don't think it's good to hold back and allow it to fester. I sympathize with their desire for friendship but their reaction is going overboard and enabling that by saying a message wasn't very welcoming will not help either side.

If someone is already resorting to cursing people out, then I find it fair to be more direct about it. No one is insulting them or their wish for friendship nor their mental health problems after all but it'a fair to point out that this is not good behavior to show, especially since it doesn't seem to be said in an overdramatic way but meant seriously.

I'm sorry if I sounded completely unreasonable I'm currently taking pills to keep me from bursting out like that yeah I'm like that and I just assume the worst of people and its not only that its my mental attitude I'm trying to control my anger and not always erupt like a volcano head exploading full of rage maybe that's why I don't have any friends I'm sorry for my nasty behavior to you all and I hope when this is all said and done I can be forgiven.

As a person that is a Gen Z with Mental Heath issues I always want to try to steer away from negativity and ager yelling and swearing my head off I really wish that I was better but I end up ruining things and make them worse.